A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Toys

Welcome to our BDSM beginner guide; a safe space for you to learn about what BDSM sex toys are, the various beginner BDSM sex toys for you to consider, and how to introduce BDSM sex toys into your play time.

Let's start with the basics, shall we?

Firstly, BDSM stands for: bondage & discipline, dominance & submission, sadism & masochism.

• Bondage is a type of play using restraints

• Discipline is when a dominant teaches a submissive partner how to behave

• Dominance is when a dominant partner holds power over a submissive partner

• Submission is when a partner willingly gives up some or all of their control

• Sadism is when one takes pleasure in inflicting pain, humiliation, degradation, or cruelty on another

• Masochism is when one takes pleasure in receiving physical or emotional pain

And then what are BDSM sex toys? Well, they’re tools designed to enhance sensations during a BDSM scene (a BDSM scene is the setting where BDSM activity takes place as well as the activity itself). 

They’re also tools to enhance the roles of dominance and submission, and can aid in other activities such as role playing dynamics.

Starting with beginner BDSM sex toys are a great way to allow for gentle exploration of kinks and fantasies without jumping into advanced practices. 

6 Best BDSM Toys for Beginners

Now for something a little more spicy. Are you ready to indulge in some beginner-friendly BDSM toys? Here are our top 6 beginner-friendly BDSM sex toys at Your Pleasure Toys:

1. Sei Mio Tread Carefully Tyre Paddle

This waterproof and vegan paddle is double-sided, allowing you to customise your play. You can choose from a smooth sensation or a  more rugged tyre-like texture. It’s stylish, portable, has an added grip for comfort, and is perfect for beginners and more seasoned players. Get acquainted with impact play, go slow, and find out if this kind of BDSM play is for you.

2. Sei Mio Nights In Tied Satin 2X Silk Sash Restraints

Experience the thrill of bondage with two silk sash restraints. They can be used to bind wrists and ankles, or even as a blindfold if you so fancy. It’s got a silky smooth texture of satin that’s soft yet strong, making it a sensual and fun way to slowly get introduced to the BDSM lifestyle.

3. Sei Mio Sensually Secured Velvet Handcuffs

For a gentler, more luxurious alternative to traditional handcuffs, these velvet restraints from Sei Mio are the perfect balance of comfort and control. They’re customisable and secure, and are great for both beginners and regular players. These velvet handcuffs are especially great for newbies as they allow for a quick and easy release with its velcro fastening. More perks? One size fits all, they’re padded for extra comfort, and they’re nickel free.

4. Sei Mio Take the Lead Padded Neck and Collar Leash

Indulge in power play with this Take the Lead neck and collar leash. It’s a great way for beginners to explore the world of dominance and submission in a playful way and, because of its plush velvet material, allows the dominant partner to maintain control without sacrificing the submissive’s pleasure. It’s lightweight, one-size-fits-all, padded for comfort, has an easy-to-remove velcro fastening, and a detachable leash with a wrist loop for easy control.

5. Sei Mio Tickled Kink Soft Mini Feather Tickler

Go for mild and gentle sensation play with a soft mini feather tickler. This one from Sei Mio is delicate and perfect for exploring and teasing. It has fluffy feathers allowing for trails of shivers and goosebumps. It’s easy to hold with its short handle for close control, and is highly recommended for beginners entering the BDSM world.

6. Sei Mio Eyes Wide Shut Soft Velvet Blindfold

Take away one of the senses and watch as the others are heightened! This blindfold was made to enhance anticipation and intensify every touch. It’s made of luxuriously soft velvet for a gentle, comfortable fit, feeling seductive against the skin. It comes with an elastic strap to ensure a secure and flexible fit, and is a treat for both beginners and regular BDSM players. This one-size-fits-all blindfold is padded and lined for extra comfort, and will undoubtedly amplify every sound, touch, and whisper.

How to Introduce BDSM Toys into Your Play Time

As they say, slow and steady wins the race. But in all seriousness, it’s not safe to go full throttle when you’re a beginner with BDSM because there’s not just the physical element, but also the mental element. 

Here are some tips on how to introduce BDSM toys into your play time, only if both partners consent to it:

• Use one toy at a time: even if multiple toys intrigue you, start with one kind of sensation using one toy at first. This is to reduce feelings of being overwhelmed.

• Use a BDSM toy during foreplay: foreplay is great for those who need a bit of relaxation and time to slowly gain arousal. Using a beginner-friendly BDSM toy, like a feather tickler or perhaps a blindfold, could be a fun way to build anticipation.

• Experiment with power roles: for beginners, it’s unlikely that you’ve established dominant or submissive roles as yet. You may even be a switch (when you can switch between being a dominant and a submissive). Use this time to take turns exploring the dominant and submissive roles to find out what you like. 

• Communication is key: as we’ve mentioned, to keep everyone safe and satisfied, communication before, during, and after play time is essentially for an enjoyable experience. 

Equally as important is to introduce a safe word. This can be anything you agree upon, and is used to stop all types of play when things feel uncomfortable at all. Using the safe word and ending things immediately should be a non-negotiable.

Now that you're more in-the-know about BDSM, has anything piqued your interest? What are you curious to try?

The world of BDSM is yours to discover, but always remember safety is number one, to go slow, and to always be in communication with your partner!