Oh darling! If you're just getting started in the world of BDSM sex restraints, you've got a whirlwind of exciting, lustful, and powerful pleasure waiting for you.
You see, engaging in this kind of bondage practice isn't merely a blissful experience that'll transcend your play time! It's also an opportunity to get so much closer with your partner.
Within the world of BDSM, partners have been said to be more open, honest, self-aware, and communicative. And being intrigued by the idea of BDSM sex restraints indicates that you're more adventurous in the bedroom than most.
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What are Sex Restraints?
Sex restraints in the realm of BDSM are props or toys that are used to restrain an individual. So while you may be familiar with bondage (typing, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic and/or somatosensory stimulation), a sex restraint is the tool used to engage in this kind of bondage.
With that, let's look at some of the lingo associated with BDSM sex restraints...
BDSM Lingo Associated with Sex Restraints
- BDSM: An umbrella term used for various forms of Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism
- Scene: The actual BDSM activities or encounters that take place are known as ' a scene'
- Top/Dominant: A person who gives orders or sensations in a dominant-submissive relationship
- Bottom/Submissive: A person who follows orders or receives sensations in a dominant-submissive relationships
- Switch: A person who can take on either a dominant or a submissive role, depending on the scene
- Contract: An agreement between two partners that outline the rules and structures of a BDSM relationship or experience
- Female Dominance (FemDom): When a woman takes on a dominant role in a BDSM relationship or BSDM scene
- Male Dominance (MaleDom): When a man takes on a dominant role in a BDSM relationship or scene
- Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC): A phrase that encompasses ethical behaviour within the world of BDSM
- Safe Word: A pre-agreed word used to end a scene
- Soft Limits: An activity or experience a person is hesitant about trying
- Hard Limits: Activities or experiences a person absolutely won't do during a BDSM relationship or scene
Different Types of Sex Restraints
To engage in bondage means having the pleasure of trying all different kinds of sassy, sensual, and erotic sex restraints. Basically, anything that binds or restrains a partner is considered a sex restraint.
Some examples of BDSM sex restraints can include:
- Bed Restraints
- Collars and Leashes
- Spreader Bars
- Ball Gags
- Pleasure Tape
- Chastity Cages
Bondage 101: Using Sex Restraints Safely During Play Time
If it's your first time using sex restraints, there are a few things you can do to make the experience entirely pleasurable and less intimidating.
It's normal for newbies to feel a bit apprehensive or nervous at first, but by following our little guide, you can ensure that you're comfortable at all times, and have the power to follow the phrase: safe, sane, and consensual throughout your experience.
1. Use Sex Restraints with Someone You Trust
Using sex restraints with someone you've just met off of a dating app, or someone you barely know is advised against. This is because practicing BDSM requires a good level of trust and respect, something that happens between certain individuals and comes with time.
2. Discuss Your Wants and Desires Before, and Reach an Agreement
Before any fun has commenced, be sure to sit down and talk about what you're expecting. This can include what you'd like to experience, what you don't want, how you'll experiment with your chosen restraint, as well as when, and where. You'll want to be in a safe space without distractions. It's also important to discuss safety issues, and problem solving ideas if you run into any issues.
3. Research Your Chosen Sex Restraint Before Play Time
Because there are so many different kinds of sex restraints, it's best that you take the time to research them to find the one which best suits your needs. Every sex restraint is different, and educating yourself on the ins and outs as well as the risks involved is imperative.
4. Play with Different Roles
If you're a beginner in the BDSM lifestyle, then you may not know if you're more dominant or submissive... that's OK! You can play with different roles, aka take on the role of a switch, and experience both to see which one makes you feel more comfortable.
5. Keep it Simple
Perhaps you've seen the intricate detail and beautiful aesthetic of the Japanese bondage technique, Shibari, and you're dying to give it a go. We recommend keeping it simple at first, as these kinds of techniques require a lot of knowledge and practice. Find your footing, and then dive in deeper.
6. Keep Channels of Communication Open Throughout
Even if you and your partner have discussed your needs, wants, dislikes, safe words, safety precautions etc. beforehand, consent is something that can be given and taken away at any time. It's important to keep channels of communication open throughout your experience to ensure comfort and pleasure.
Respect is a huge factor when it comes to any BDSM scene. Two partners need to take care of one another, only participating in things that have been agreed upon beforehand. Again, a safe word can be used to bring everything to a halt, and both parties need to respect their partners throughout the experience.
8. Take Your Chosen Safe Word Seriously
A safe word may sound a bit silly to those who don't practice the BDSM lifestyle, but it's actually one of the most important parts of a scene. A safe word could be a way in which one gives or removes consent, and is an indication that things are no longer going well, and therefore needs to stop.
9. Engage in an Honest Conversation After Your Scene
Whether you've used sex restraints once or multiple times, having a conversation after a scene is imperative for everyone's wellbeing. It's a chance to talk about what just took place, what you liked and what you did not like, and different way to improve or change your scenes in the future.
Aftercare is a chance for two partners to show each other that they care for one another. It could be enjoyed in various way, such as cuddling, talking, watching a film together, eating something nutritious, or simply sitting in silence with a glass of water. Because some BDSM scenes can be intense, aftercare is a great way for couples to show care and respect for one another so they do not feel discarded or disregarded.
Sex Restraints for Beginners
Having learned some of the important aspects of using sex restraints, and indulging more into the world of BDSM, are you intrigued to give it a go? We recommend the S&M Intro Kit for Beginners.
Using this kit is an opportunity to dip your toe into the action without breaking the bank, and spoils you with one pair of black furry metal handcuffs, one black satin blindfold, and one black whip.
Our advice? Take it slow and enjoy the journey with someone you trust and respect, because life is all about new experiences and all kinds of adventures.